Shannon R. Brown

You say it’s your birthday, 

It’s my birthday too, yeah

They say it’s your birthday

We’re gonna have a good time

– The Beatles

It’s my 51^st birthday!! And I aim to have a good time today. I hope you use my birthday as an excuse to have a good time too. We all deserve a little fun!

I pondered all kinds of things to talk about today, but I settled on a little bit of reflection on what my life looks like at 51. Not gonna lie, it’s pretty good, but it looks quite different than I imagined it would when I was 20. 

I moved to Texas right after I got married and was supposed to be here for no more than three years. Well, almost 31 years later here I am, still in Texas, stuck in the weather oven as it begins its pre-heat cycle in anticipation of summer. Not exactly what I had in mind all those years ago. But, aside from the hellacious weather and lack of mountains, I don’t really have much to complain about when it comes to my current residence. Family, friends, a roof over my head and a bed to sleep in each night. #Winning.

I never pursued that PhD in Psych I was certain I wanted. Turns out, I don’t regret forgoing it. I got a front row, participatory seat in raising a couple of great kids, and several bonus ones as well. I helped babies make safe debuts into the world, I’ve counseled and supported many, I’ve served in several different ministry positions, and even managed to publish my first book. Most of that wouldn’t have happened if I were Dr. Brown.

I have lots of laugh lines, forged over many years of trying not to take myself too seriously – and having hilarious friends. The old wives tale says an apple a day keeps the doctor away, well, laughing daily does too. So when I look in the mirror and see the wrinkles I have now, I view them as a life full of laughter. My hands have begun to look more like those of my grandmother’s, and it’s a sweet reminder of that precious woman. Instead of bemoaning the signs of my age, I choose to celebrate them.

I’m stronger, fitter and wiser than I was in my younger days. I’m more confident. I’ve learned the value of sacrifice, and the blessing of plenty. I’m more even-tempered, quicker to forgive, and faster to let go of a grudge. I’m learning not to sweat the small stuff. I’m more courageous and capable. And I’m happier in general.

I don’t know where the next year will take me. I hope it includes travel, time with family and friends, and maybe even another book. I’m going to try not to worry too much about the future and instead embrace the here and now. This is 51. And it’s pretty great.

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